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i’ve been pretty quiet around here lately. I got myself a part-time job at a cafe, and I’ve been trying this thing called reading books. It’s nice. I get to snuggle up with the kitties and not strain my eyes with a computer or ipad or phone screen. But, as I am an “extreme feminist” as one of my dear friends likes to say, an issue has brought me back to haddadadad. Which is a good thing. Caring is good.

I occasionally read the blog The American Virgin, and lately they have been focusing on Abstinence Only Sexual Education, which is a fun way that tries to scare kids into not having sex, either by mentioning STIs, AIDS, pregnancy, and the like. Other fun topics they seem to fit in is how girls shouldn’t give their opinions to boys because the boys are more interested in girls they feel they are helping. Right. As I have been in a relationship where I felt that way, I can tell you it’s one of the scariest ways to go about your business. Not only does your life get dictated by what that person wants to do, but if/when you have any inklings of doing something different, you beat yourself up over not doing exactly what your significant other wants and making him upset or moody or, worst of all, not want to spend time with you.

Not exactly what I consider healthy.

What I hope for in sexual education: giving kids the chance to choose whether they want to engage in sexual relationship or abstain. Give them the knowledge of protecting themselves from sexually transmitted diseases and infections and pregnancy. While contraceptives are not not 100% effective, they sure cut down on the chances of being infected or getting pregnant. Teen Moms would become less of a reality show and more of a warning. Abortions wouldn’t happen as much. Kids wouldn’t be cast out of their homes for getting pregnant before being married. Kids who aren’t legal adults wouldn’t get trapped in relationships with people they don’t want to be in a relationship anymore because kids change their minds.

Currently, not all schools let kids know about condoms. My school’s health class said it was an option and quickly went over the subject. That was ten years ago, though. Who knows what it is like now. Hopefully better!

The entry about scare tactics ended with a link to Amplify Your Voice’s setup for a prewritten email voicing for a repeal of these types of classes to send out to every state’s political representatives. It even finds your reps for you with your zip code. I added a little more words to mine and rearranged a paragraph or two to make it a little more interesting and less scary, and I will provide it here if you like less starch in your opinion emails:

subject: “Co-Sponsor the Repealing Ineffective and Incomplete Abstinence-Only Program Funding Act of 2010″

Dear Representative / Senator:

As your constituent, I ask that you co-sponsor the Repealing Ineffective and Incomplete Abstinence-Only Program Funding Act of 2010 (HR 6283/S3878) — a bill that would eliminate Title V abstinence-only-until-marriage program funding.

After spending more than $1.5 billion on ineffective abstinence-only-until-marriage programs, it is time for Congress to stop funding these failed programs once and for all. Study after study has shown that these programs have no impact on teen behavior and censor critical information about condoms and birth control.

These types of “teaching aides” use scare tactics on girls to make them believe boys will not want them if they have too many ideas of there own. Seriously. This video talks about it in representation with computer-animated characters http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jmwJvgKTTjw&feature=player_embedded . Essentially, it’s telling half the population, soon to be voters, to not voice any opinion for fear of rejection. I could have sworn that the point of voting was to stand by what you believe to be the best policies. How will that happen if people aren’t voting?

The American public overwhelmingly rejects teaching young people abstinence-only-until-marriage education. Numerous studies have shown that more than 80 percent of voters want young people to receive a comprehensive approach to sex education that includes teaching about both abstinence AND contraception. I feel adding the layer of contraception, pardon the pun, will help give a better, more complete sex education in our public schools, greatly reducing teenage pregnancy and the transmission of sexually transmitted infections and diseases.

It’s time for Congress to stop promoting ignorance in the era of AIDS and take a stand for public health and the rights of young people.

If you to are interested in making this sort of education process modified, please fill out your own form at this link. It takes about three minutes.

And because I am so XTREME:

NWS

Talking bears share Abstinence lessons, Part 2:If girls have ideas, they will scare boys away and end up alone. the american virgin
amplify your voice
End Funding for Abstinence-Only-Until-Marriage Funding amplify your voice

Saw this video linked on the facebooks. Two fellas by the names of Travis Nuckolls and Chris Baker walked around the Colorado Springs area asking people their thoughts on homosexuality. They then ask their interviewees when they decided to be straight. Bravo, guys. I’m totally using this the next time I experience gay haters.

I have a feeling this question may break a few people’s brains.

Oh Victoria’s. Really?

“Invisible” lace. So let’s get this straight: you’re advertising the see-through lace isn’t actually see-through? This lace effectively airbrushes your body to not appear to have nipples or any type of crotch hair or skin folds or anything, rendering you more like a cartoon character than a real human. Reminds me of cheaper underwear that can’t afford to use real lace and has to use more fabric for support of the fake lace.

Are we all starring in a movie we need to make PG-13? Can’t have an R so we can get the kiddies? Maybe this is just a way the lingerie clothing company is allowing people to be ashamed of the normal parts of their bodies, things that are supposed to be there. I could have sworn that the fun part of having lacy underthings was the peep show factor or maybe getting to see something intimate (or just plain dirrrty for those of you that need the kink factor), like how the Rockettes and can-can dancers do high kicks that could lead to a peek at the lady bits.

Oh well.

Victoria’s Secret has been pushing their “cheeky” undies a lot in the last year. My inbox is full of ads for them. While they can have adorable patterns, one feeling is clear: this underwear is made to give wedgies.

Now, I don’t know about you, general readers aged 19-27, but I am in probably the best shape I’ll ever be and my skin is as elastic as it can get. I’m going to lounge about the indoor homestead in my underoos every chance I can. This lack of clothing means I need underwear that actually covers my buns to prevent cat hair and whatever from getting on my tush, as well as protecting furniture from smelling like ass. Besides my freewheeling need to bare almost it all, I also like to be able to walk without feeling something gathering in my crack area. With or without additional layers of clothing, it’s a thing I have to not have anything uncomfortable in the no-zone.

There is a ton of underwear that are cute or sexy and also cover all the buns. Some of those designs even hug the contours of the butt muscles that are exposed in the cheekies.

Are Cheekies cute? Yes. Are they functional? No way, unless you like your anus outsides getting rubbed raw from fabric.

in case it doesn’t read right: http://www.liveleak.com/view?i=047_1268356832

What prom translates into for dudes: it’s time to get laid!

It isn’t so cute anymore, and it hasn’t been for some time. With pornography being so readily available — thanks, internet! — and adults still embarrassed to talk about sexual relations, even in the most obscure sense, eg. “Jimmy, wear a condom so you don’t get any diseases or get the girl pregnant” or “Jennifer, you can say no and he’ll still like you. If he doesn’t then maybe he isn’t interested in you as a person,” kids start to get some idealized views of sexy time. There are websites available for educational purposes, even in livejournal land, and can be found through a simple internet search with your favorite engine. Just being told “DON’T DO IT” doesn’t seem to be working towards a positive morale when, even when they don’t do it, they’re looking at pornographic videos, unwittingly gathering information for a later date.

Consultant and all-around smart talker Cindy Gallop (woman, what can I label you?!) tells us who’s who and what’s what with boys being raised with early access to hardcore porn. Without sex education in the classroom or parents talking about the birds and the bees or having any type of counselor to take an objective, instructional role on health, emotional and physical safety, and other things typical of a caring sexual relationship it can get a little weird. To get some realistic ideas on porn ideas, check out her cute nsfw website, Make Love Not Porn. To the nsfw video!

I am icked out at the thought of my father telling my little brother, “Son, ask the girl if she wants to get splooge on her face before you moneyshot her,” and don’t know if he is even capable of using that sort of language. With this in mind, I believe the proper resources need to be allocated in a better advertised way to reach the masses of horny teenagers before they turn into masses of misogynists.

Prom Garters: Blatant Objectification…in Your School Colors” the american virgin
Porn is Not Real Sex, and Everyone’s Getting Dumped: the KSK Sex/Fantasy Football Mailbag ksk
Cindy Gallop

“Better Together” for Match.com from FriendsWithYou on Vimeo.

Match.com’s new ad on being in pairs. Other than it pushing (hetero?) couples culture super duper hard, it’s hella cute!

Shit We’re Diggin: Friends With You’s “Better Together” for Match.com wooster collective

Lady Gaga’s “Bad Romance” video:

references I catch, in order of appearance:
-Pokerface (there’s one of the great danes! the other one died :(:()
-True Blood airline coffins
-Where the Wild Things Are
-thriller
-anime
-HOLY SHIT THAT’S HER REAL FACE
-underbite from Venture Bros? and phantom of the opera
-queen of the damned clothing
-feminine ~desire~
-majorettes
-vanilla ice lol
-burlesque
-alice in wonderland
-French? dude I need to learn another language
-I DONT WANNA BE FRIENDS
-Flashdance
-Fifth Element
-there’s an art history reference i’m missing where she’s posing in front of the bed of flames. i know i’ve seen it before.
-vampires

everybody should clap their hands like that. gaga oo lala.

always cool when a neato guy makes something like this comic:

i wish she’d tone down the autotuner in her single things.